Peaceful Demonstration

The rain stopped during the rally. DD#1 said that it was because “Mother Nature wants us to win.”

The girls only complained a little, and we were able to see LeLo and AdRi for about two minutes. Sadly, we missed seeing our other blog friends. . .

It was a good rally, good speeches, and lots of people. Oregonians care about equal rights and the turn out tonight reflected this fact, which made my heart happy.

We don’t want anything different than what anyone else has. We want our relationships recognized, we want to be able to take care of our families. Our relationship does not threaten heterosexual marriages; heterosexuals threaten heterosexual marriages. We want to be treated fairly and equally. No more.

I will hold hope in my heart that the judge will allow the domestic partnership law to take effect and grant us the basic fairness that we deserve. I will also hold in my heart that my daughters will grow into adults looking back at this time and chuckle at how ridiculous it was–denying people equality, how absurd. I hope that they will remember standing up for their family and doing what was right for not just their mothers but for all Oregonians.

Thanks to my friend Stacy and her daughter for coming with us tonight. She is a true friend, who despite being much to the right (politically) than me, has always supported and loved me. She’s one of the “right” Christians.

Thank you to my blogging friend who have sent nice words of support and positive energy our way. I realize that many of you live in states where the idea of gaining domestic partnerships may seem like a pipe dream. I promise you, I will do my part every day to stand up for you too. It’s what we all deserve.

Here’s to the Constitution! And Peaceful Demonstration!

Ready to Rally!

We’re Ready People.

We have SIGNS!

Thanks to my nice friends who own a screenprinting/sign-making company and whipped these up for me in no time flat. They rock. (HG added the equality stickers to add a bit of flair!)

If you live in Portland and you care about equality. I expect to see you tonight at the rally.

Hey, even our straight-married-conservative-republican friends are going! If they are going, the rest of you have NO excuse.

Until we all have equal rights-NO ONE has equal rights!

** Oh, and if we get arrested, someone call Limpy.  He’s a lawyer, he’ll know what to do.  (When he stops laughing that is.)   

Rally, Rally, Everybody Rally!!!

Yes it’s cold outside. Yes it will probably rain. It’s January in Portland, this is just the way that it is. If you must bring an umbrella, we will make an exception this one time.

We will be there. I will be taking pictures and I ordered signs for the girls to carry; I will turn them into political activists yet!

Whether you are gay or straight, this effects YOU!

Until we all have equal rights, NO one has equal rights!

Stand Up, Be Counted!

Be There or Be a Dork!

Love and Kisses,

RSG

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A few housekeeping notes. . .

A big thank you to Limpy for his thoughtful comment on my last blog post. He’s so good with words and I really liked his tutorial on the proper use of semi-colon placement. They don’t let dummies graduate from law school you know!

Got my electric bill last week. All of our Green Living strategies has paid off- our electric bill went from $130.00 last month to $90.00 this month. (That’s $40.00 people.) $40.00 simply from changing our light bulbs to Compact Fluorescents (and we didn’t even change all of them yet,) and unplugging our electronics when they aren’t in use. $40.00. Better than a kick in the ass.

College essays: written.

No school today for me or the DD’s. Yes, it snowed about a half of an inch and the city went CRAZY. First we had a two hour delay, and then canceled. The Today Show was preempted to cover the January Storm??? Storm? It snowed a half of an inch.

Rally this Wednesday, January 30, 2008 at 5:30. Be there. We will be taking the girls. It’s important to teach them about their Constitutional right of peaceful assembly and demonstration, (this is still a right I believe); DD#2 asked if we were going to get arrested, I said, “I sure hope so.”

Speaking of BRO. Pictures from the vigil are here if any Portland Queer bloggers are interested.

Speaking of Portland Queer Bloggers. I’m thinking of putting together a GLBTQIAA Blogging get together (PDX queer bloggers and their allies, that’s what the last A is for.) Anyone who is interested, please drop me an e-mail, (rsg at recoveringstraightgirl dot com.) I’m thinking sometime in May?

Did you know?  More of you visit my blog on Tuesday than on any other day of the week.  Why?

I was tagged by Mid-Life Clarity to list six non-important habits/quirks about me. Hmmm. There are so many more than six, but I will comply:

1. I always leave water glasses on my nightstand; usually I will collect two or three before I take them downstairs. This habit has been known to bug the hell out of the people that I live with.
2. I spend entirely too much time on my computer; I love my MacBook in an un-natural way. This doesn’t usually present a problem in my relationship until I am asked to do something and I respond, “In a minute,” which in my language means, “when I’m finished with whatever I’m doing that I deem so damn important.” For the sake of my relationship with my wife, I try not to do this with varied success.
3. I am a relatively safe and cautious driver and rarely, if ever, exceed the speed limit, or run yellow lights. I make an exception on the speed limit issue only when driving on the freeway, and never more than 12 miles over the speed limit. This works out especially well when driving in states like Wyoming and Idaho where the speed limit is insanely high.
4. I am a super organized planner; especially when it comes to events and vacations. I typically organize a vacation in a three ring binder divided by days with every destination and it’s information carefully chronicled. I include a check-list for everything including individual packing lists. If the list isn’t followed, I get anxious, and have been known to “snap” at the violator(s).
5. Despite being super organized in many areas of my life, I am super dis-organized in other areas. I frequently forget to pay bills until the day they are due, I forget to write things in my checkbook, overlook things like dentist appointments made six months in advance, put the wrong time on my calendar; stuff like that. I usually pull it off without suffering major consequence, but it is a bit distracting. To my credit, I have improved in this area tremendously as my children have gotten older. I never even used to record things in my checkbook, now at least I do so most of the time, (lately all of the time, yeah me!)
6. I have no patience for rude, incompetent or stupid people. On occasion I have been known to be a raging bitch to those who fit in those categories, sometimes to my detriment. I usually like to think of myself as a very diplomatic person who is generally logical, but there are times when I go off the deep end a little and lose it. I don’t yell or cause a scene; my bitchiness is more devious than that. It’s snide, and even a bit evil. Not proud moments; perhaps as I age I’ll mellow out a bit.

Wow, that was easy. I have so many things, it’s hard to stick to just six. I’m not much of a tagger, but just for fun I’ll tag all the other RSG Bloggers. That should propagate this meme to a few people!

That’s it for housekeeping. I think I’ll challenge DD#1 to a game of Wii Bowling.

Wrap up my warped brain

My brain feels warped from all of the reading and writing I’ve been doing.  This school stuff has shocked the un-used portions of my brain to exercise again and it (my brain,) is feeling tired and sore.

My teacher made a good observation to me the other day, she said that I’ve been the master of my own domain for so long (in reference to writing people,) that it is difficult for me to suddenly have someone tell me how to do something, with a format to follow and rules and shit.  Here I write whatever I want, and if I have a semi-colon in the wrong place, none of you point it out to me.  I could use 45,000 semi-colons and none of you would really care.

I finished my essay, the one that I sent to a few of you to look at has been re-written.  The one I am left with is relatively good I think and hopefully I will at least get a C on the damn thing.  I over thought it, expended a whole lot of brain energy, but I am learning how to do this the correct way and that’s what is important.  I do realize that my future does not depend on this one essay in this one class, but it’s the first piece of academic work that I have done in over 20 years, and I want to do it well.

So it’s done.

For the most part.

Due on Monday, so really it’s pretty much done.

Now I’m on to my next essay which is on a novel we read in class, “There Eyes Were Watching God” by Hurston.  I’ve already stressed about it, I’ve already started it and I’ve already received some very good feedback from my English professor to get me on the right track.

See, I’m feeling more relaxed already!

Tonight HG and I are attending the lesbian dance.  Lipstick and Dipstick will be there and we’ll be meeting up with friends.  So I’ll just let my brain breathe a little and enjoy a Cosmopolitan or two, (or three.)

That should wrap up my warped brain.

Until tomorrow at least

Ask RSG, (again)

You all did such a great job helping out Sarah and her girlfriend M. on the previous post, I thought I’d share another question that I received this morning from Jessica, another RSG:

I have a question that I hope you can help me with. I too am a RSG, I’m 33, I’ve been “straight” all my life. I’m in a long distance relationship with a wonderful woman and I could never be happier. However, I’ve yet to tell my Mother and I have a 12 yr. old daughter and I’m not sure how to handle things with her. After reading your “About RSG” and seeing that you have a 12 yr. old and you have ALL girls, I would like to know how you handled the situation, and how you came out to your mother. Thanks!

Jessica,

Coming out to my parents was the easiest part of my entire experience.  I think that it was harder for me to come out to some of my friends than it was to my family (children included.)

I told my mother right away; in fact she was the first person I told.  She was much more concerned about my impending divorce than she was my sexual orientation; to her, she liked things copasetic, not the messiness that a divorce would cause.  My mother has never had an issue with me being a lesbian, and was thrilled when I met and fell in love with HG.

The relationship that I was in during my divorce was not one that I was open about to my daughters.  To them, she and I were friends, and had been friends for a long time, they never asked me about it, and I didn’t want to complicate their lives by putting that knowledge out there. In retrospect, it was a very good decision.  It was an adult matter that the children did not need to be involved in.  That relationship ended prior to my meeting HG.
I didn’t come out to my daughters until I was dating HG.  It was over a year after my divorce and one day I just mentioned to them in passing, “I think that I would like to start dating someone, do you have a problem with that?”  They said no, that they didn’t.  Then I said, “Would you have a problem if the person I wanted to date was a woman?”  DD#1, looked at me, and said, “No Mom, what difference does it make?”

I frequently checked in with them, and when HG and I began to be serious, I checked in with them some more.  We have very open conversations and I always attempted to ask them open ended questions that gave them the opportunity to express their feelings.  They have never expressed to me any issue whatsoever, even as DD#1 has entered middle school, which was something I was concerned with.

After my initial “coming out” time and after I figured out a few things, (like the fact that I was a big ole lesbian,) I never felt a need to proclaim my sexuality to anyone else in my life.
Acquaintances, neighbors, even some friends, and my extended family.  If I had gotten a divorce and started dating a man, I wouldn’t be calling up my grandmother and saying, “Hey, Grandma, guess what?  I’m fucking this new guy I met, isn’t that great?”  So why would I call her up and say, “Hey Grandma, guess what?  I’m fucking a new girl I met, isn’t that great?”

Here is where I am coming from.  Being a lesbian, dating someone of the same sex is not BAD.  Why do you need to make apologies?  Why can’t you just mention to your mother, “Mom, I have someone new in my life that I really care about, we get along great, we have fun together, I’m completely happy, and her name is Jane.”

Perhaps this is too idealistic, but I feel like if everyone just normalized the fact that the gender of the person you love is not significant,  we would have a lot less problems.  I seriously doubt that most people would call up their mother and say, “Mom, I have something serious to tell you.  I’ve been dating someone.   I don’t want you to freak out, but he’s Jewish.”  (As I wrote this I realized that there are probably people who would do this, and that’s sad.) 

You certainly need to do what is most comfortable for you, but I fail to see the need to have a big drawn out drama of a coming out to your mother.  You’re 33 years old for God’s sake, you’re a grown woman, you certainly don’t need your mother’s permission or even approval to live your life the way you see fit.

Now, about your 12 year old daughter.

12 year old girls are just brinking on their own sexuality journey, which makes this a bit of a tedious time to be discussing your own sexuality with her.  12 year old girls know a thing or two about sex and they really don’t want to be thinking about their own mother having sex (with anyone.)

With that said, I would start talking to her NOW.  I would be honest and open without going into too much detail that may freak her out.

If she knows the woman you are involved with and likes her, I would start there.  Say something like, “Honey, you know that Jane and I spend a lot of time together.  Well, I have begun to have very special feelings for her and care about her very much.  She is someone that means a lot to me and I want to have a relationship with her and everything that goes with that.”  Allow her to talk and express her feelings.  Be sure to present it as normal, explain it as you would any relationship.

You don’t mention if her father is in the picture and what, if any homophobia has been presented to her in her life.

Key points:

• Buy her a book on sex and sexuality written for pre-teens.  There are many good ones which present homosexuality in normal terms.
• Explain to her that your being a lesbian does not make her a lesbian, and that her sexuality is something for her to figure out as she grows older.  Explain that sexuality is something that is fluid and may change over a person’s lifetime.  Explain that there is nothing wrong with being gay, no matter what negative things have been said. (Just like there is nothing wrong with being Asian, or a person of color, or a Muslim, or a Republican.)
• I recommend the book, “How it Feels to Have a Gay or Lesbian Parent,”.  It is actually written by children of different ages and their experiences; almost all of the children were born into heterosexual families.
• PREPARE her for prejudices that may (or may not) occur so that she isn’t shocked if and when it happens.
• Giver her time to process, and keep talking about it.

Your daughter may feel threatened simply because you’re in a relationship with someone new, kids get like that.  She may have issues that have nothing to do with who you are with, but just because you are with some one.  You don’t mention how long this relationship has been going on, or how long you were single prior to it’s beginning.

I think what I have learned through my time as a mother in the simplest terms is this; If you don’t make a big deal out of things, generally kids don’t either.  If you make something seem awful and looming and bad, your kid will feel the same way about it.  If you’re stressed out about something, your kid will be stressed out about it.  They feed off of you and HOW you present something is much more important that WHAT you are presenting.

I wish you the best in your relationship, your process of discovery and in everything else.

Love,

RSG

Ask RSG

Recently I received a comment from a young woman named Sarah. Sarah explained to me that she is a 21 year old college student, stating, “I’m straight…and have dated guys all my life.”

Recently she ended a two year relationship with a man, which fell apart due to an issue of the distance between them. Sarah says that she is still in love with the boyfriend, despite the fact that he is now dating someone else.

Sarah’s problem is this:

“A little over a month ago, I met a gay girl through one of my friends and immediately I thought she was funny and nice. We both stayed in my friend’s room that night and we kinda hit it off. She was very open about how she felt towards me and although I emphasized that I was straight, she didn’t mind, and I felt myself oddly attracted to her. We’ve been talking ever since then, and I’ve tried to be more open with my thoughts on a relationship. She’s very much in love with me, and i DO love her…I’m just having a hard time coming to terms with and accepting all of this when I’m not interested or attracted to any other girls, so I know I’m straight (or bi at this point…) but, I want to know if I’m most likely wasting my time in a whim of a relationship that I may not allow to last, or if over time I can overcome my past ideals and societies acceptance, and be happy living my life with her? I’m not sure what to do or think about this and am seeking some help and advice from other girls…straight, bi, or gay…that can help me out at all.
I’ve formed quite a friendship and love for this girl, and don’t want to be tricking her or myself and hurt her in the long run. I look forward to hearing from you.”

First a disclaimer.

I am not a therapist, but I do apparently play one of the Internet. My answer is my opinion only and should not be construed as medical or psychological advice!

Dear Sarah,

You’re issue is one that is utterly timeless in the drama that is lesbian relationship. Whether you are the lesbian or the virgin straight girl, the tale has been told, and re-told a hundred times over. You, my dear, are the centerstone of lesbian myth, fear, and (occasionally,) happy ever after.

Honey, you keep saying that you’re straight, but you’re interested in another woman.

You’re not straight.

You can identify as however you wish, but don’t delude yourself into thinking that you are somehow immune to the grasps of sexual fluidity, as very few people are.  Whether you feel more comfortable identifying as bi, or queer, or hetero-flexible, feel free, but please don’t stand up with such vehemence professing your heterosexuality while at the same time feeling confused about a homosexuality tendency. It does little but make it seem as though being gay is BAD.

It is not.

Less important than your adjustment to what you’re used to and the need to balk at societal norms, you should be measuring this potential relationship as you would any relationship, despite the fact that the person you are in relationship with happens to be a woman.

There is no guarantee in any relationship; straight, gay, bi, polyamorous, whatever it is, there are never solid answers to how it will turn out. I believe that you are using the uncertainty of the outcome of the relationship to hide behind what appears to be a bit of homophobia on your part. Your 21, you’ve never considered a lesbian relationship for yourself before, of course it’s confusing! You’re entitled to be confused, but try to see your confusion through a real lens and not one that society has created for you, not one that your past relationships created for you, not one that your own prejudices have created for you.

Stand back a moment and look at this woman who cares for you, and ponder your feelings for her. You state that you love her, what type of love is that? Are you sexually attracted to her? Have you had a physical relationship? If you answer yes to the last two questions, I would say that you’ve pretty much answered your own question.

I think that it’s very good of you to be concerned about hurting your (girl)friend; many a lesbian hearts have been broken by the rogue bi-curious cupcake.

But fear not, if she’s been around the block or two, she knows what she’s getting herself into. If she hasn’t, well, I guess it’s about time she learns what her “big girl pants” are for and has her heart braced for what any veteran lesbian would look at as sure disaster.

You said that you’ve been looking all over the internet for advice; this is a natural reaction. I believe that you should stop looking for outside validation and start looking inside your heart.

Best of luck!

RSG

The Culture of Bloggers

And Google Alerts.

Once in awhile I will write about something here that I suddenly get comments from people who have never commented before, and often they have nothing nice to say. Some of you may recall the post I did awhile back on “T.I.P.S.” that generated over 30 comments from one obviously deranged individual, leading to over 80 comments all together that took up entirely too much bandwidth on the server that hosts this site.

The other day I did a post on “Green Living” where I received another strange “flaming” comment from someone who, I’m quite certain does not read this blog regularly and according to my Stat listings, only viewed that one post and the comments, several times. I also received a nice comment from Anna who has a very nice site on Green Living. Anna and I e-mailed back and forth a couple of times, (I typically prefer to answer comments this way, you may have noticed.) In one of those e-mails I asked Anna if she was a regular reader of the RSG blog or if she stumbled upon my post. She told me that she has a Google Alert on Green Living and likes to comments on other’s blog posts regarding this issue.

Fascinating.

As much as I know about the Internet (praise be to Al Gore,) there is always something new to learn. Of course, I’ve seen that Google Alert thing when I google search something, but I’ve never tried it nor did I realize the evil that it can cause, (read: Kerry from the last post, Deranged Woman from the T.I.P.S. post, not Anna the nice Google Alert lady.)

All of this information tied very nicely into the essay that I am writing for my Institute of Higher Learning class on The Culture of Blogging. Google Alerts, and contributing or flaming someone through them is another element of our culture.

The learning just never stops here in the Blogosphere does it?

In addition, the comments on that last post on Green Living also contributed to this essay. Those comments illustrated the incredible networking and information that is shared through blogging. There was intelligent dialogue, people were sharing their own tips, sharing links, sharing ideas, contributing to this little post that I made about what’s going on in my house and how I was a little bit pouting about having to take the bus for an adventure, (which btw, we had a great time and I managed to survive, even enjoy the bus ride!)

Also illustrated was a level of Blogetiquette, (or lack of.) Blogetiquette is not something that we bloggers “discuss” or call each other on as often as we should. When I posted back to the flaming commenter, I instructed him to “wipe his feet before entering my home,” which I then directly took and inserted into my essay.

Amazing, isn’t it how all of this tied together? The essay is not completed, and the rough draft is due tomorrow morning, so I will be sitting here at my computer until 2:00 o’clock working on it. (I have not been procrastinating, I’m just a perfectionist.)
I would love to hear what you, my blogging friends, have to say about our culture and perhaps some of the points that I have made in this post about contributions, commenting, blogetiquette, using google alerts (for good or evil,) and other cultural elements of our “blogging world.”

My professor says that I can use your comments in my essay, of course I’ll have to cite them with MLA, (she’s finding me the format.)  You may even be mentioned in my essay, I’ve already used Limpy, LeLo, and Syd!

I will await your comments!

Green Living

It’s easy to be “green” in the Northwest, we’re set up for it around here, what with all of the tree hugging environmentalists all about. HG and I do our best to do our part, but of course it’s always lacking, because there is always more that we can do.

Sometimes I have a little fantasy about buying a few acres west of the Scary Suburbs, having a little farm where we can grow vegetables, raise chickens (for eggs,) have a goat (to keep the grass low,) grow lavender (because we’re lesbians,) maybe make some wine and beer, (because we’re lushes.) Live sustainably, be kind to the earth, you know.

As much as I love this idea, this fantasy is in direct violation of our Five Year Plan, and our Ten Year Plan; the plans that will ultimately take us to living on our sailboat in South America after the children leave home.

So I can’t have my farm where I grow organic vegetables, so we must settle for some other kind of Green Living.

Let’s take a gander of how far we have come:

1. We recycle, (of course we recycle, we live in Portland, if we didn’t recycle we could possibly be taken out by a firing squad.)
2. I pack the girls lunches every day in a lunch box with re-usable containers and re-usable water bottles., (except for DD#1, who is high maintenance and obviously doesn’t care about the earth, she must have a brown paper bag!)
3. We don’t use the store’s shopping bags anymore, or get boxes from Costco. We bring our own bags, and only request a paper bag if we must have one for our recycling. We have trained the girls to do the same.
4. We try to combine our trips and make DD#1 walk to and from school unless we’re going that way or coming back home at the time she’s walking. This saves an incredible amount of gas.
5. I carpool with the neighbors to take the other girls to school or they take the bus, (most of the time.)
6. We don’t eat fast food.
7. I buy a lot of groceries in bulk to cut down on packaging.
8. We only use natural cleaning products that do not contain any chemicals harmful to the environment.
9. We keep our thermostat set to 66 degrees (F) during the day and 61 degrees (F) at night. If I’m cold during the day I put on more clothes or turn a small portable electric heater on in my office, which Ginger loves to sit in front of.
10. Since Christmas I’ve been on a “spending diet” and really scrutinizing every thing I buy. I want to cut down on “stuff” in our lives.
11. I buy natural and organic foods when ever I can. I do not purchase any pre-packaged foods and make all of our meals from scratch. We eat at home as a family almost every night that the girls are with us and are now trying to eat at home when we’re here alone. This cuts down on money and resource waste.
12. We replaced all of our light bulbs, except for the dimmer bulbs in our dining room, with Compact Fluorescent bulbs. The initial cost was high (about $100.00 or so,) but by replacing just 5 bulbs with CF bulbs you save on average $50.00 per year. We replaced many more than 5!
13. We try to be conscience of unplugging our electrical appliances when not in use. The toaster, the coffee maker, lamps, television, cell phone chargers, camera chargers etc. These items are called “vampire electronics” because they continue to use electricity even if they are not turned on.

Many of these changes I have made have not come easily. I happen to love cleaning products, especially bleach. I love shopping, I love consumerism, and I love traveling and dining out. I have been resistant, yet willing to move forward.

On Friday we watched, Who Killed the Electric Car, (a must see,) and debated how are we supposed to make a difference, when most of the rest of the country is setting us up to fail? In the movie, they speak of the concept of a non-gas running/polluting engine as a carrot being dangled in front of our eyes, never to really be achieved. Corporations and oil companies are controlling what we as consumers are wanting, advertisers are dictating what we “need,” and the world is suffering because of it. HG is hell bent on purchasing an Electric Vehicle, but the prices are astounding despite the fact that the technology for zero emissions electric cars has been around for over a decade. We want a world without pollution, but no one makes any money on a clean earth. Money is made is destroying and then attempting to repair it. Is this what humanity is about? I like to think not, but I know that the realities of our world are much different than my logic or even my naivety.

Yesterday I was looking into purchasing a Worm Composting Bin and a Rain Catching barrel. These two items, despite their initial cost will help to cut down on contributing to land fills, eliminate the need for purchasing fertilizers, and re-use the rainwater we get so abundantly in Oregon for the dry times during  the summer.

But despite all of our strides, our willingness to do our part, paired with the powers of resistance, I do realize that I (we) aren’t there yet and have a long way to go to live the way we can and should be living. One day at a time on the journey of Being Green, I guess. A journey that begins with small steps.

As I have been sitting here writing this, my beautiful “Greener Than Me” wife has announced to me her plan for an activity for us tomorrow.

We will WALK to the bus stop, and take the BUS from the scary suburbs to down town Portland where we will peruse used books at Powell’s and see a movie at a theatre that projects digitally (more environmentally friendly than film.)

All of this sounds great except for the walking and the bus part. That idea causes me to look for my non-environmentally friendly hand sanitizer and long for my internal-combusting-fossil-fuel burning polluter of an SUV for heat.

I will do it, I’ll be a trooper and I’ll even have a smile on my face, (I will, I will, I will.) It’s just one step. Just one small step. If I can do it, anyone can!

My New Celebrity Girlfriend

Now that my romantic anniversary is over, I can talk about the other woman in my life!

I’ve always had Celebrity Girlfriends, even when I was apparently straight I would frequently tell people that I would happily run away with Angelina or Gwen Stefani. I’ve moved on from them, although I wouldn’t mind dinner with Angelina; we could talk parenting, world peace, travel, you know.

For a while I was with Jackie,

We broke up when she was being all flirty with that straight girl that she works with a month after telling Curve magazine that she would never get romantically involved with a co-worker. (Liar.)

Then I fell hard for Chrissy,

I still heart her, but she lives so far away, and she’s so busy!

I had a short lived affinity for Kate,

But she has WAY too many kids.

And then.

I discovered Michelle.

She is the writer, producer, and star of a quirky cute little lesbian sit-com on Logo that I think is fab. And she is a hottie. I even went as far as to leave a comment on her blog, (I’m not stalking her, I promise.)

I know what you’re thinking. She’s not a blond with short hair. I’m okay with that, I really think I should expand my horizons and not have a “type” of celebrity girlfriend. It’s always good to keep your options open, yes?

Anyway. That’s my new celebrity girlfriend, (but I still love Chrissy, because we’re kind of committed, this site comes up second on a Google image search for her!)

Check out Exes and Oh’s. Apparently you can download the episodes on iTunes. Enjoy, and enjoy Thursday. (Oh and click on Michelle’s picture to read more, she’s quite yummy fascinating.)