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I suck
Posted under DD's, Mothering by Recovering Straight GirlSo after I finished my last blog post, the one where I was bitching and complaining about how torturous it was going on DD#’s school field trip, I received the following note:
Dear Mommy,
Thank you for volunteering your time, I am really happy about it. You really did not have to do it but you do and I am really, really, really, really happy that you are my mommy. Thank you for sitting in the way back with another fifth grade girl kid. I really wanted you to go and you did, I am really happy about that. Thank you so much for going to OMSI, I LOVE YOU.
I love you, I love you, I love you, I love you, I love you, I love you, I love you, I love you, I love you, I love you,
So much.
Mmm, hmmm. Suck.
YOU DO NOT SUCK. You are a normal woman experiencing normal feelings for not-so-normal events. To respond to your daughter positively is one way you act on yur love for her. To notice your discomfort and dim, clueless (fill in the blank however you wish) suburban moms is one way you act on love, appreciation and protection of your self. Both are extremely valuable (and show lots of “recovery.”) Your daughter’s note is her way of acting on her love for you… whether she noticed your discomfort or not.
WAY TO GO. and really, you do NOT suck.
(Whoever (if anyone) taught you that you should feel like everybody else all the time… now THEY might suck. But not you.)
Help… somebody take away my soap box!!
You most certainly do not suck. It’s okay to bitch about that stuff. The important thing is that you did it! You were there for your daughter and she will always remember and appreciate that.
Congratulations!!! Your daughter will be a great manager some day! Maybe she can even get to be president if she knows how to use her skills! You don’t suck! She just made you feel guilty for complaining about the most normal thing to complain about!
Ditto what they said already. Good for you and so nice that your daughter appreciated and let you know. Win-win.
You absolutely do not suck, you’re human, and this is your place to blow off some steam. That was a really sweet note from your daughter, btw.
You most definitely do NOT suck! It’s completely normal to volunteer and then complain about it.
(If it’s not, I’m in deep trouble. It’s not like I complain to my daughters! heh…)
I digress…it’s totally normal and mommy like to volunteer, do your best for your children, deal with what you have to deal with and then go home and thank all the gods of the universe that it’s over. I mean, come on, there’s only so much ‘kid’ness we can take for one damn day! Oy.
I always tell my girls “Listen, this is the absolute proof of how much I love you because if you think for one moment this is my favorite thing to do….listen to every sad, sorry kid who can’t sing, play, insert your favorite whatever here…you’re as deranged as I feel after sitting through two hours of that!”
Hehe…ok, I don’t really say it like that but you get the idea. I love those notes! They’re wonderful and guilt tripping and totally from their sweet little hearts aren’t they?
Actually, I think the not shows you DO NOT suck. You taught your girls well.
You had a moment. We all do.
What Kami said. Obviously you raised your girls right. A thank you note? In this day and age? That’s great.
Okay, was I the only one in hysterics after I read this?
RSG, this was priceless! You captured the moment perfectly. The mental image of the look on your face as you purse your lips together while reading that note, all the while, in the back of your mind thinking, “My daughter is sooo cute … and I suck.”
Okay, maybe I’m in complete hysterics cuz this happens to me at least three times a month. Four times on months with 31 days.
And you so don’t suck. You’re a mommy and you totally rule.
Ahhhh…those were the days. I remember them well, as does my 22 y.o. daughter.
Did I enjoy every trip, soccer, soft, basket, volley ball games, every b-day sleep-over party? Nope. But she did and she appreciated me being there and doing what needed doing.
Of course you don’t suck. Not. At. All.
You do not suck girl!
What a sweet letter for your daughter to write to you. She obviously appreciates what a good mother you are!
I feel it necessary to clarify a couple of un-clarified issues.
Firstly, DD#2 did not KNOW that I was miserable. I didn’t bitch about it to HER, just to all of you.
Secondly, DD#2’s teacher made all them write thank you notes to the chaperone’s, so she didn’t come up with that idea because I raised her right, I probably haven’t.
I didn’t want to take any credit that I didn’t deserve.
But thanks for all the nice things you all said:)
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