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About Me
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Hi. My name is Kathryn and I’m a Recovering Straight Girl.
And this is my blog.
I’m not a Mommyblogger but I do have three daughter, one of whom is a teenager. They came to be as a result of a ten year marriage. My marriage ended for many, many many, many reasons that spanned a decade; but ultimately when I realized that I was a lesbian at age 35.
I’m a little slow, what can I say?
My life is very different from when I first started this blog; it was a very difficult place to be, divorcing, coming out later in life, and rebuilding every part of my life. I walked the journey of being a Recovering Straight Girl, but now I am quite settled in my life and feel quite recovered from my heterosexual past. I continue to write this blog because it is part of who I am.
I have had amazing opportunities come my way via this blog, mostly the amazing friends I have made on the internet and in real life. Nearly every good thing that has come my way since beginning writing here has been a result of this blog. Blogging not only changed my life, I believe it saved my life.
Currently I am a full-time college student studying English, a freelance writer and columnist. I write a column called “Living Out Loud” for Just Out, Oregon’s only GLBTQ news magazine. Below are links to online copies of my work if you’re so inclined to read them.
love to hear from my readers and I hope that you will leave me a comment of drop me an email if something I say resonates with you. I really makes my day, unless you say something mean, then it just pisses me off. Send all love letters here; I hope you do. I’ll write back and we can be BFF’s.
Soooooo REFRESHING! While the many of us go around prentending we’re NOT…you ARE!!! Hopefully some of your courage/stupidity will rub off on us fearful ones. Don’t stop what you are doing…and yes, you are talented…as a writer, I mean!
I have been reading your blog for a while. I decided to start my own.. just thought I would pass it on to you since we have a few things in common.
It is so refreshing to find you! I wish you the best, you look so happy!
I’m linking you to my blog if you don’t mind!
Take care!
Just wanted to join you in the LILL (late in life lesbians) club! lol I, too, was 35 when I “came out”. My partner is my soul mate and I have no doubts we’ll be together the rest of our lives! I have a beautiful 6 yr old son, and we are currently trying to concieve a child together. My DP rocks my world too!!!
I would love to talk to you more about the issues your kids face at school with the whole 2 moms thing. You can email me anytime. Your blog was very refreshing to read. 
Every mother wants to be important to her children… ! I think the narcissistic ones insist that the children act as if the moms are more important than the children feel. And as a MOM who has a blog, I do believe my children enjoy being mentioned in it… especially when I’m being all sweet and appreciative.
Warm regards to you!
This is my first time reading your blog but I find you truly entertaining. I just started a blog myself and it sucks compared to yours…thanks for sharing your posts with us!!
Hi RSP, only 35 when you came out to yourself?? Got you beat! I was 49, married twice, second time for 20 years. After happily divorcing his a**, I lived alone and uninterested for four years……until my dear friend and I started having FEELINGS for each other. (I had NO idea I was gay/bi/lesbian/whatever.)
We were together for five wonderful, painful years. My heart kept opening more and more to love her. But ultimately, we were not a good match.
I am dealing with chronic health issues and am fatigued most of the time. She is nine years younger and a bundle of energy, wanting to be active all the time.
It’s been a year and we are great friends who understand each other and want only the best things for our dear friend.
“Just Happened”
I was really happy that I just happened to go on flickr tonight, happened to look at a photo you had commented on, happened to click through to your photos, happened to click on your profile, and finally happened to come here!
My introduction to your blog was via a recent Bush-bash post of fine quality. Then I came here and discovered that you came out at 35 after a long marriage. I’m 37 and doing the same thing. Right now. Minus the DDs (unfortunately). But with wonderful new GF (fortunately).
Funny – and nice – how random clicks here and there, there and here, can bring you somewhere maybe you’re supposed to end up.
Wow….you and HG are adorable, your kids are adorable and your story is adorable.
Ps. ADORABLE.
Glad you found an awesome girl to spend the rest of your life with!
Tiffany
HI HG,
I guess alot of us have the same thing in common…coming out later in life…I was 32 and had been with the man for 17 yrs…I always thought I was supposed to be his wife, and have children….Now I am so happy and in love with my gf….what a find…..everything I have with her is amazing….
I have 7 kids and anytime someone would like to chat about kids facing the “two” mom thing in school, or anywhere else, I would love to talk or e-mail or blog….We live in Plymouth, MA and have had two known incidents of disrimination and my kids have done such a wonderfull job handling it…They are awesome for the most part….and they all have such different personalities…..oKay enough for now, I hope to talk to more people….
Wow…this is just what I needed to read today! I am 38, was married for 10 years (divorced 2 years ago) and found the love of my life…a woman! We have been together going on a year and it has been the easiest and most fulfilling relationship of my life. I just stare at her in amazement…good god!!
It is just so refreshing to see that other women have had the same experience..thanks for sharing!
Hi RSG,
I co-own (along with another dyke and 3 gay boys) Canada’s largest gay and lesbian travel company, Rainbow High Vacations.
conxity.com is our online travel agency and we came across your posting on Vallarta Palace.
may we use your comments on our site or ask you to post them? while the agency has been around for 15 years, our site is still new. we’ve been encouraging our clients to post their travel experiences in our forums, and would love to include yours.
we’re launching a new women’s week in Puerto Vallarta (see our home page) and having more women’s experience to share is always a good thing.
let me know what you think.
looking forward to hearing from you,
Deb
Just came across your blog, while I have not yet had the chance to explore, I can’t wait too…your story sounds very familiar. I am 32, mother of two girls, married for eight years, and currently in the process of recovering from straight girl status myself. I have been craving contact with other women who have been in this situation, and am eager to read more of your story.
Jen
I just recently came across your blog and I have to say I LOVE IT!! I have a question that I hope you can help me with. I too am a RSG, I’m 33, I’ve been “straight” all my life. I’m in a long distance relationship with a wonderful woman and I could never be happier. However, I’ve yet to tell my Mother and I have a 12 yr. old daughter and I’m not sure how to handle things with her. After reading your “About RSG” and seeing that you have a 12 yr. old and you have ALL girls, I would like to know how you handled the situation, and how you came out to your mother. Thanks!
PS-I will explore here more, maybe it’s posted and I haven’t seen it. You can email me at jess_ica819@yahoo.com
Hi RSG!
I’m slowly spreading my blogging wings, and yours is the next I plan to catch up with. Seen ‘ya around, just want to say hi. I love your words!
Q
Great story! I now have a GF who is a recovering straight girl of 38 – she is totally awesome and I’m glad she picked me to be her first! I would take any advice you have to offer…she’s my third and I totally want to do it right and be sensitive to her needs…
All is great, but I lament for the guy that seems to be outside the life of the life of a fantastic woman. I hope previous hubby has enough redeeming qualities that you and the kids still have him around sometimes.
ROCK ON!!! John Press
just found your blog and love it! wish i could say more, but it’s refreshing is all i’ll say for now.
Hi RSG, greetings from this super hot part of Africa, where time seems not to matter.i bumped onto your blog a few weeks back and i LOVE IT, we might be from different Planets and not share many things, one thing is for sure you have given me the will to continue striving forward and just being me. Am turning 30 this year and i have been constantly trying to deny who i am and who i want to be with. Apart from family and society pressure to get married and have kids i have stayed true to myself and i will continue to fight for what i think is right for me. Am not married neither do i have kids, while the rest of my peers are prouding themselves and married and mother to 3-4 kids i was busy trotting the world and leading ‘an active academia’ iife. oohhh wow thats a mouthful!!!! anyway thank you for this beautiful blog although i dont have a very stable and reliable connection i heart what your doing. Thanks for making my days and keep on encouraging many. XOXO Pendo