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Step Off Douchebags
Posted under Bitching and Complaining, Douchebaggery, GLBTQ issues by Recovering Straight GirlOh my God. Really. God?
I don’t know what to say.
Today my friend A. was harassed by an old woman on the campus of Portland State University while she was sitting there and minding her own business listening to her iPod. The woman started a conversation with her and asked her if she was gay. A. told her that she was and the woman began to bombard her with slurs and disgusting rhetoric.
She told her that Jesus wanted her to know that she was unwelcome.
Really?
Do these fucking douchebags even know who Jesus was? Have they READ the bible? Because I have and I can say with a fair amount of certainty that Jesus would never tell my sweet friend A. that she was unwelcome anywhere. Jesus would most likely want to hang out with A. and have a beer with her (or wine, I think Jesus liked the wine.) I can totally see Jesus and A. sitting around in their (robes) and chit chatting about life and literature and politics. A is brilliant and could talk about all kind of stuff with him (she’s also Jewish so she’d know that stuff too.) He might hit on her (because she’s pretty) and she’d blush and tell him that she’s in a long-term committed relationship with her girlfriend (also A., I need more letters.) He would say something like, “All the good ones are lesbians” and they would laugh and have another glass of wine.
Jesus would totally dig A. and that douchebag asshat old lady needs to STEP OFF.
The coincidence of all of this is that several people came to A’s side while she was being harassed by this woman and I found out later that one of those people was my darling friend Chuck who is the partner of one of Cher’s teammates.
The universe is a queer place and I find it amazing that two of my favorite people in the world would be in the same place at the same time with one of them in a vulnerable position and one of them in a position to help. I guess that is what makes balance in the world and for that I am grateful. I’m sorry that A. had to be in that place but I’m glad that Chuck was there to support her.
Now if we could get rid of all the douchebags.
I’m really tired of them. I’m tired of their rhetoric and their judgment and their lies. I’m tired of them twisting literature into what suits them and I’m tired of them hurting people.
Every night I lay my head on my wife and think about how much I love her. I don’t question that love, I don’t measure it against other people’s love. I don’t wonder if the love I have for her is right or wrong because I already know the answer.
All love is right.
And
Douchebags Be Gone.
I really can’t understand this. Why would somebody do that? I am glad you shared the story – it reminds me of how important it is to speak up against such insanity.
thank you for posting, and both my sympathies and my strength to A. – one of these days that kind of bullshit will end, if we have any decency left.
I love you.
Grr
The universe is a queer place …. Great fucking line.
Wait…you are a girl and you have a wife??? Oh dear god, the zombie baby jesus hates you. Ok.. .I am better now. Sorry your friend had to deal with this. Douchebags will never be gone unfortunately.
Nobody asked for that wanker’s opinion anyway.
I do not understand this post. Everyone knows that listening to ones iPod goes against Lukailioas 1145:98.
WHAT’S NEXT? MARRYING LAPTOPS?!?!?!?
I hope so, because I’d marry mine. His name is Mr. Wickham. Because I like bad boys.
Thanks, K <3
And a big thanks to Chuck! I had this fear last night that I'd never run into the kind people who stood up for me while I was sitting in shock and tears and be able to thank them for being so calm and supportive – what a small, queer world this is.
Lots of love…
a
Thanks, K
<3
Late last night I was upset thinking about the fact that I might not run into the kind people who stood up for me and thank them for their support. I'm thrilled that you know one of them and that I might be able to thank him in person one day. Until then, please thank him on my behalf.
Lots of love…
a
“I’m really tired of them. I’m tired of their rhetoric and their judgment and their lies. I’m tired of them twisting literature into what suits them and I’m tired of them hurting people.”
The scariest part is that they believe, to their deep down bigoty cores, that they are right.
I’m with you…love is what’s right. Always.
Amen! Keep talking because everyone needs to hear what you have to say!! It took me 32 years to learn to be able to live with myself because of who I chose to love, and no one will ever take that away from me.
All the rest of the bigoted asshats be damned, I will enjoy the life I’ve lived for 3 years and wake up every day and know that God, Jesus, the Godess, whoever is happy because I am finally happy!!
I can’t even begin to imagine the hubris, arrogance, narcissism, vanity, self-centeredness, the f-ing God complex and insanity that it must require to go up to a complete stranger and start bashing her. With the audacity to claim to know what Jesus thinks as well. GAH! Too many crazy people in this world. I’m glad she had a champion when she was under attack!
Nicely said. Unfortunately these kinds of people need to die away in order for their influence and impact to fade. I for one can’t wait! J
I always say something like: God really doesn’t like when you speak for him, you need to re-read the Bible with an open heart and not looking for a sword to vent out your insanity. Oh, and have a nice day, Jesus loves you, the rest of us think you are an asshole.
I think it’s horrible she was attacked, and the attacker was obviously not filled with the love of Jesus Christ like she claimed to be. Jesus loves A. with all His heart…be careful bringing my Holy and Almighty God to a level like that, though…He deserves respect and reverence, not to be made into just an “Average Joe,” because He is anything but that!!!!
You’ve talked about this before in your blog……Heterosexuals admonishing Homosexuals. It isn’t a kind thing to do. It only goes to show how narrow minded many people are. We can have differences but no one should be attacked for their sexual preferences. Jesus certainly would not have done that. He would have been kind and loving. He would NOT have told her she was unwelcome. He would NOT have said “all the good ones are lesbians”. He would NOT have hit on her and he most certainly would NOT have called her a “fucking douchbag”. Don’t you find this name calling ironic? My Jesus is a man who loves all people regardless of what they do, what they believe, and even what they say. If someone calls you a name do what he would do…forgive.
I don’t think that anyone can really say what Jesus would do or say if he were sitting around at Portland State University. It seems anti-intellectual to even speculate. I was being funny.
And I wasn’t exactly name-calling. I was generalizing.
And I can do that if I want to because this is my blog and I can say what I like. Also, I don’t pretend to be perfect and neither should anyone else.
Yes it is your blog and you may say anything you like. No one was pretending to be perfect. I was merely saying what I thought Jesus would do in that situation and what we all should do in that situation.
I agree whole hardedly, although, ridding the world of douchebags wouldn’t be the answer, its kind of like natural selection. They are the rodents.
Strong women/men/or other need these douchebags to remind us just how lucky we are to be the way we are, nonjudgemental and open to new ideas or ideals. I like the douchebag’s actually , i like to laugh at their stupidity and imoral thoughts of how everyone should be just like them and everyone else is damned for all eternity. It gives life a light air of justified amusement on my behalf.
Keep loving life! and laugh at the small things/people!
First, the GLBTQ center at U of O gets vandalized with swastikas. Now this. What the hell is going on in Oregon. I thought we were somewhat safe here. Of course, when the democratic president, who claims to love us, can’t stand up for us, and won’t say he believes in marriage equality (when John McCain’s wife and Dick Bloody Cheney can), we know we have a long road ahead of us. I know in my heart that someday our children will look back at this shit and go “Really? That is the way it was back then?”
I was at a dinner party a few nights ago and someone mentioned, “I am so glad we live in a society where we can be tolerant of gays and lesbians.” I was so angry and could not help myself. Tolerance really means to endure. Endure means to accept something with slight pain and hesitation. I hope to live one day in a world where love is just accepted for love. Hetero or homo, does it really matter?
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